The utter happiness, goosebumps and butterflies in your tummy, your cheeks hurting from smiling so much but you just can’t help it and smile still. It’s like an out of body experience. Amazing, exhilarating, intoxicating, utter happiness – this is how your wedding day should look and feel like. After all marriage is such an important symbolic ritual and it’s not every day that you are marrying your best friend.
And it’s not just your wedding day that should be an incredible experience. From the moment you say “I do!“ all the way to your wedding day, the experience should be amazing and joyous. Definitely not the type we have seen in the movie ‘Bridesmaids’ or “Bride Wars’ right :).
It should be a purely happy and easy process whilst you plan your unique day and trying to personalise it as much as you can so it is “truly YOUR day” and reflects both of you and how you love one another.
Having worked with many brides over the last 9 years as a wedding photographer, I know that EVERY Bride cares about this and I believe that it is important for you to get exactly what you want without stress, upsets and disappointment. This is how a wedding and wedding planning should be.
Except though, sometimes it is not.
I have witnessed and spoken to many brides who were upset or disappointed with certain things on their wedding day. The hotel and staff being absolutely unorganised and nothing was ready on time so the whole day was delayed by a couple of hours, the bridesmaid dresses that just didn’t fit at all, or stationery not arriving in time for the wedding day. Make-up being less than perfect (and yes it shows in the photos), or flowers that were just completely wrong…. there were many.
And this really saddens me because every bride should have the best experience – both on and before her wedding day.
Now don’t get me wrong, of course the most important thing is that you are marrying your best friend and you are surrounded by your friends and family. BUT at the same time, you have spent a lot of time and money on your day so THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NO REASON TO NOT GET WHAT YOU WANT.
The wedding suppliers and professionals you choose for your wedding will have a huge impact on your wedding day. You don’t have to take my word for it, just ask any bride 😉
SO HOW DO YOU FIND THE BEST SUPPLIER?
So how do you know who is the perfect fit for you and provides exceptional service?
Well, each supplier should tick all 5 ‘must’ boxes. These, to me, are as follows.
1, THEY SHOULD BE AMAZING AT WHAT THEY DO – CONSISTENTLY
Meaning they should produce great work BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY every single time. And trust me, consistency is the key and most important word here. So do some research, have a look at their website as well as Facebook page or blog for more recent work. Is there consistency in their work – a certain style and always great looking work?
2, PROVIDE AN EXCEPTIONAL SERVICE
It’s all about the EXPERIENCE. Yes a wedding day is a “unique experience” and so should be everything else that you do for your wedding. You shouldn’t just get nice flowers, or a pretty dress or fabulous hair. Every single wedding supplier SHOULD give you an amazing experience! Period. It all counts and you are only getting married once.
So do a little research – look at their testimonials page and their Facebook page – what is everyone saying?
Also try to google or research feedback for the particular supplier. You can ask in relevant forums or Facebook bridal groups for the specific area. Are other vendors or people recommending them…it all counts.
3, BE A NICE FIT
You have to like them as a person from the first minute or point of contact. Of course, there is no point in dealing with someone you don’t either like or get on with. “Clash of the Titans” is a great movie, but it shouldn’t be an expression one uses in connection with a wedding right :).
So are they nice and personal in their e-mails or sound lovely on the phone? Are they friendly, approachable and caring. Are they truly listening to what you want? Are they helpful and do they go the extra mile. Again consistency plays an important part here.
4, THEY SHARE YOUR PASSION
You are excited about your wedding day of course. But so should be all the wedding suppliers. They should be in love with what they do, and their passion should come across when they talk. You can ask them why they do what they do and you should see their face light up (or alternatively get excited as a little puppy 🙂 and with excitement describe their “why” :).
They should also show enthusiasm about your day and ideas and perhaps even throw in some suggestions or recommendations how to make it even more spectacular.
So, can you feel their excitement and passion as they talk about your wedding day?
5, LISTEN TO YOUR GUT
This is a big one. Because deep down we can tell if things feel right or wrong – it’s just learning how to recognise the little voice. Granted, it’s not always easy, but how many times did you thank yourself when you went with your intuition when things didn’t feel quite right…. Yes exactly. So discuss it with your fiancee and family… then meditate on it/sleep on it/journal about it/write pros and cons or eat some chocolate (always helps me 🙂 – basically whatever works for you. And you should know.
So do they put you totally at ease? Do you feel like you can be yourself and totally relaxed around them? Do you feel like you can trust them with your amazing day?
So that’s it, that’s the big must 5 :).
Now, if you are still not sure or can’t decide after following the big 5, or you need to know really really fast if someone is the right person for you (like on the spot) – next time I will share with you my secret and amazingly powerful questions, that you can ask yourself which will immediately tell you whether someone is right for you or not :).
It’s a little shortcut, and it works, every single time.
It really is that simple.
Have a beautiful day.
p.s. : And if you are totally lost and don’t know where to start with the suppliers, or just live off the Island and don’t have time to speak to them all, I will share with you something special that I have been working on :).
For now, happy wedding planning 🙂